Forgiveness is for The Forgiver

Carrying a grudge is a loser’s game.
It is the ultimate frustration because it leaves you with more pain than you had in the first place.
Recall the pain of being wronged, the hurt of being stung, cheated, demeaned.
Doesn’t the memory of it fire the fury again?
Do you feel that hurt each time your memory lights on the people who did you wrong?
Your own memory becomes a video tape within your soul that plays unending reruns of your old rendezvous with pain.
Is this fair to yourself -- this wretched justice of not forgiving?
The only way to heal the pain that will not heal itself is to forgive the person who hurt you.
Forgiving heals your memory as you change your memory’s vision.
When you release the wrongdoer from the wrong, you cut a malignant tumor out of your inner life.
You set a prisoner free -- yourself. ~ Lewis B. Smede
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“If we refuse to forgive, we burn the bridge over which we ourselves must pass.” ~ From The Peacegiver by James L. Ferrell